The "Breadwinner", the "Breadslicer"

Naturally I would desire a family where my spouse would contribute equally to our dynamic. This equality may not be dispersed in the traditional way. Being raised by a single mother, I expect of myself a strong hold on any situation. In a relationship this is not necessarily the best compromise. I already envision myself as the "breadwinner" of the household. However, being the main source of income does not mean that the other person is not pulling their weight.

I've always adored a male figure who can be open minded and provide in other ways; attention, affection, and effort. The quality of their work is what matters most to me. If they feel passionate about their work whether it is in a career position, or a part time outlet, I think I would be happy for them. In the same manner I would strive for this happiness myself.

Say the circumstance would come to me being the "breadwinner" I would feel most comfortable putting forth this type of effort. What would be difficult for me is to allow the male to take charge in other affairs of the home. I would want to have a handle on the children, the diet, the cleanliness, and any other plans. But this would just be too much for one person to handle. Letting go of the "motherly" instinct to govern children and trusting the man to contribute in this way would be mentally trying.

Once seeing past this challenge, and allowing things to be, I think both partners would be able to enjoy the benefits of a balanced, positive family.

Ford, Marjorie. Tyre, Peg. "She Works, He Doesn't". The Changing World of Work. Perarson Education, Inc., 2006. 50.